How many people have you slept with, Neighbor? Not wanting a woman with a dicey past doesnt make a man some self righteous, hypocritical, judgmental monster. Ugh. Women behave as sluts for many reasons. Men still are conscious of disease and do not want a woman who has been Youtube. it depends on the vagina not the number of guys. 1. I have sex because it feels great, no matter Who its with. My girlfriend who I am seeing right now has had sex with about 65 people Thoughtful. Thats a load of crap! I slept with the majority of these guys between the ages of 18-21 but now that Im in a different place I dont have sex as freely. I swear, idiots..youre just being selfish. Really man. Like the article states you dont know why she chose to sleep with an individual or several. This is a trite platitude devoid of meaning. And people who are so quick to judge others usually have some self-esteem issues. However, most men will always respect more the woman who has the discipline, self-restraint, and dignity to not give in to the lust temptation juts because shes horny. 18 Reply r3l_b 4 yr. ago Btw, there is only one true ALPHA in this entire universe. How detailed you can get depends on how much your lover can take. I feel her past sexual experiences are better than anything I can do or achieve, but she wont ever say, what can I do, I feel Id like to know everything about her even if its painful so I can rebuild my confidence and trust fron this point on. Imagine if a man had zero partners before marriage, was told that her past was with a couple and they were small and terrible in bed, only to find out later that was a lie. I think that sex is not the big factor of life, as a matter of fact I know sex is not the big factor of life. Lol wow, do you realize there is a difference between wanting a girl that has been around versus not judging a girl that has been around. You say you've only slept with one person. I have a BUNCH to say, but first lets address the wear and tear issue, it obviously has some relevance physically, but I would say it is mostly mentally destructive. I will dismiss any woman who I know has been around the block. would want a man who thinks this way, otherwise, she is going to just end with In my attempt to be understanding, I heard her out about everything including listening to her tell me that she was very intoxicated, was caught off guard each time (wasnt planned), liked ONE of the guys, and that the other guy was his best friend/roommate. There is more than that going on, and even the woman who was a virgin entering marriage can find herself taking that route if she is left unfulfilled, vulnerable, and an opportunity arises. If my friends or people mention hey, that girl your with, my mates have hooked up with her multiple times, shes a bit of a slut. Sex often results in emotional attachment for a woman. So a young fertile woman was his best bet. If a woman was promiscuous and had sex with numerous men, she was a bad mate choice due to the fact that he may be mistakenly wasting his resources raising another mans child(ren). Part of that process takes proper communication. No one should be lied to in a relationship. Uhh, read again. What girl will you marry? Men are different shapes and sizes therefore I beg to differ. Shes going to be somebodys wife or girlfriend, because he values her more than his immature philosophy. I have zero interest in dating a woman that has had a double-digit amount of partners. There are an abundance of other important Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. Men are ENCOURAGED to enjoy themselves sexually. Having slept with others casually certainly doesn't mean that someone will cheat. If she is so comfortable with her sexuality and sex drive, be honest about the number. These are the things that are going to be What I want to encourage you to do is to understand what is done is done. they resort back to their network of past sex partners, or start going The idea behind waiting for marriage may have been feasible decades ago but that ideology is based in religion and if youre not a religious person what exactly are you waiting for? I disagree 100%. If i come up to you and say, hey wanna fuck ? Most men dont want to marry a person who is in effect a man with a vagina. that it is fine to date a slut but I just want some fucking piece of hope cause I don't want to drop this shit as I really like her. Me personally I know everyone does things they are not proud of but if i meet someone that has the potential to be the one why not at least get to know them and consider giving them a chance no one on this earth is flawless and perfect but its up to us to have a clear mind and not let the things mess up something that could be special. Ive been with one man-my ex-husband. Take that Woman, Do as I say and not as I do double standard mindset and flush it down the toilet! I am available to help have the discussion. whether or not she has a(n) std(s)) is very important concerning the number of partners that shes had but if a woman tells a man that shes slept with 3 men and neglects to add the 0 at the end of that, shes being dishonest and that violates the principle of another post that you made (4 keys to starting and maintaining a successful relationship) previously. This is why men are actually attracted to more pure women. Just women who act out and try to dodge the consequences of doing illogical stuff. At least that is how I understand it and I agree. Men have just as much of a right to choose as women do. Some people just dont deal with relationships well. Most of it was a hard learning lesson for me. I told him his past is of no value to me as i love him and accept him for who and wht it has made him today and i just dream of a beautiful future and will work hard to make it work. If your 30 and you had sex with 45 people, I have had sex with a really tight girl, but she was only tight because she had strong kegal muscles. I know plently of them. It carries some truth to it undoubtedly. for their own well being and for that matter There is a strong feeling of anti-social Yeah so shut up lol. I'm trying to learn how to differentiate but it's fucking difficult man. Thats a nice, positive thought. Its a number but the bigger problem is the emotional baggage and damage that it leaves on a woman thats really hurtful to her partner, the man she ends up being with will have to deal with. Thank you for your comment it is one of the most spot on and helpful in the thread. Most of us have things in our past that the next person can view in a negative light. Shadow Hunter-Stay in Touch. Its difficult. Just understand we have all done things that the next person may not agree with. Ask her about how she views your relationship, and what she is hoping it can be. If you are brigading from another subreddit you will be banned. in order to let me know she is relationship material, yet shes slept with 100 people, well.I wasnt born yesterday. Men have to go out to 10 women and hope 1 of them chooses him. Ive never gone out just looking for sex, and I prefer to feel connection with someone. Is she in to me or just a touchy best friend? Its sad but girls qnd guys are just not wired the same Yes, there's a big difference. The Student Room and The Uni Guide are both part of The Student Room Group. Questions and Answers. However, theres another possibility that you could simply be what she could afford to have. Brothers like you are the reason so many women act like men these days. But if you only had one burger, that one burger would be your set standard. Reply 122. Because most men are not comfortable, this is why many women lie about it. If your not going to be responsible w/ your body your either going to lose that double standard, or lose respect. They are seeking love. Same goes for sluts. It is reasonable and advisable to judge someone based on their personal character. made and consequences stem from them. If you feel that this is the case, maybe consider whether it is fair for her to have you in her life. I was promiscuous in 9th-10th grade. I see what you're saying about burning the toxic feelings and I agree 100% I want to get rid of them and out of this mindset very badly and even from what I've read thus far this thread and people input have helped me to frame my thoughts a lot. Ask her about her thoughts on it and her expectations now and in the future. That should not deter you, if anything let it motivate you to just be better and become the best lover she has ever had. I may not be properly explaining this but I hope you get what I am trying to say. Your experience may vary. haha Also A LOCK that is open by any KEY is a USELESS LOCK!, To my point of view we all have our premises on how we chose our partners (size, color of eyes, color of hair, etc) for me the number of sexual partners of the person I would chose it would be also a factor I have to admit that bumping into a ex partner would be a negative effect but to me is more the idea of this person being more able of controlling herinstincts a bit better than an animal or not.. The Virgin guy is one by choice. Same boat. A man with emotional baggage or self esteem issues cannot believe that a woman with past relationships can be committed to loving only him. Saying that if you have good communication with her and can get a sense of her values maybe it can be worked out, I understand what you're trying to say, I think. I do not hold it again them because I am not exactly a virgin either. Well at least the second one could get justified by necessity Would you marry a prostitute? It is what it is, but the most important part is your STD FREE!!!!! She fills out many of the red pill and general knowledge definitions of what a slut is. At the end of the day, I dont want to ever sleep with another man besides my boyfriend. This article is not about telling woman to do as they please or to promote promiscuity. Judge whoever you want to judge on their past. Although hes been with girls that are tighter than I, he comes quicker, harder, and more intensely and immensely because of his emotional towards me. But the average man, when hes serious about a woman, does care. life. Well a lot of us men would have been very happy just meeting a woman that could love us for who we are just like they did years ago since money was never an issue, and many women Accepted their men back then since many marriages did last very long like our Parents and Grandparents did. lover constantly complains that you nag them, try and find ways to fix this But I had a young lady who was interested in me. Of course it should matter. Nothing sums it up better, I wish I could sit down and heave beer with you. The fact that men are completely excused from this behavior while women are chastised for it left and right is just amazing to me. Making a guy cum seems to be a quick fix for their insecurities. hint 2: dating highly sexual people simply involves better communication and actual adult emotional processing skills. Im sorry you had to experience that. So again basing her value as a woman off of numbers shouldnt really mean much. Therefore I believe a woman should be more selective in who she chooses. So men are letting go this thing that she slept with 30 guys before marriage because this is common. Its all we have. Eh. And I prefer to date her for a while before I sleep with her. You dont think there are alpha women out there? Saying that a woman should have a low number of partners is out of sync with reality. My friend hoes often do not look like hoes.. but they still are As sad and hard as it seems its true I think how many sex partners you have had should matter. Doesnt mean a man will like it, but is it really worth letting go of a good thing because of a number. Since a lot of people have a problem with the objectification of women lets view her as a human woman again. Thanks you! Maybe teach you to stop overthinking trivial things like her sexual history and maybe help you learn to enjoy being in the moment? Thats deepmakes me feel foolish for rejecting some females because of my insecurity about their sexual past. We know that today we are faithful and happy. Thank you so much : ) I really appreciate that. But nonetheless your human bro. Run. Additionally, male and female sexuality is just different. I applaud you that you have been able to wait, but that doesnt mean now you should look down on others who have not. Fortunately for me he had an affair Or do we grow up and understand that who someone was in their past is not always who they are in the present. The image of women as conservative and prudish has been in place since patriarchal days and were created by the fathers and prospective mates. old.) So if that woman is open and honest enough to tell that man her numbers, he may walk away from her before he even learns that she now does share the same values as he does. There are women who have been with one man, and have gotten an STD. Is it any wonder why marriages are going downhill ? Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (The Course), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (The Membership), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (Course), Manifesting The Man and Life God Has for You (Membership), Cheat code to a fulfilling long lasting relationship. Im a male and feel that woman and young ladies do get a bad rap when it comes to sex and thier numbers. Sorry, no thanks. This is life. To use the analogy of work, yes, fair comment. Everything else Ive suggest stems from this- respect. The fact of the matter is what one decides to do with their body is their decision and they should not be judged by imperfect perfect people based on that decision. This is relevant because babies can also stem from sexnot just disease and promiscuous nonsense. This is the difference between you and some other posters. It helps with understanding them fully, but it should not be used to pass judgement in any way. If people would stop having children out of wed-lock this would alleviate some of these incidents. So the numbers are irrelevant. they are the last person to even go there! Compare apples to apples, Crazy Obsessed Man. Not horrible.. A year is a long time. Before she told you the number and after she told you the number she is still the same woman you fell in love with. I guess it really doesnt matter. My opinion on how many people is too many: Since people When we first met, we did the whole discovery thing about each other and kind of asked about our pasts like two weeks into the relationship she mentioned she was with 10 guys or soI said about the same, I have to admit that I typically used that as a way to see if this person is a potential long time mate, same moral values, etc we were in our early twentiesThis woman became my one and only a month into itwhen you know, you just know!6 months into our relationship she tells me she has something to talk about, I say oklet me have it. relationships because they are so used to casual sex that theyve personal advocate now and then intervening for me. So its cool to wife up a porn star? It started to become so frustrating that men would love everything about me but judge me sexually. Take hold of completely forgiving her, and focus on only showing her the love she needs from you. What I noticed about these two women as well as my female friends and colleagues is that women who have had a large number of sexual partners often have different values and a different outlook onrelationship behaviorthan those that have not. Yes, there is certainly a price I am paying: not seriously dating sluts. So even if a man views you as equal, his desire to not want to see the women he wants go outside his desired perception of her is to make her feel like she is nothing but a whore if she dares cross that line. Theres no extra rewards to it. 3 of the men I was seeing wanted to marry me, but they are more jealous. I want to dedicate long term to this girl as that is what I like to do when I commit to a relationship but I'm terrified that I will end up wasting a large amount of time on a girl who will end up cheating on me or blowing up in my face. I dont know if i should open up anymore or not. You make a great case for why women should not be promiscuous, but what the article is trying to convey is that their past should not be held over their head forever. NO! Labeling them as whores and not worthy of a relationship isnt going to resolve the real problem here. Men are equally free as you to care (or not) how many partners their woman has been with. You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. So to simply go off of the number is in my opinion a misguided approach to understanding the person you are dealing with. Usually some sort of collection of all of the good qualities between all of their partners with none of the bad. You already know what the homies are saying. Men like having a feeling of conquering and powerlessness. If her vagina still makes you come who cares how loose or tight it is. -Women also judge in choosing partners. them based on the fact she considers him to be the worthy one if you will. Thus conconcluding in divorce. So take a second and ask yourself why it matters. Wow this has just help me so much. Then, my sweet little friend, I would suggest you do a thorough SELF-examination. Women need to stop judging other women. I dont want to hate on the people that made mistakes, because we can always change, but you are right on point. You can do that without ever knowing how many partners she had. Lots of heartache there. Is she still a better option than the woman who once upon a time was promiscuous, no longer behaves that way, has healed/worked past her issues, and now can be everything you would need her to be? Women whether it be in the past, or in modern times, created an image that they must live up to. Ive read about a porn star named Shelly Lubben that got married and stay married. Fast Stream 2023 (Reinstated) applicants thread. You wont be fully satisfied until youve found every single one of those great qualities all bunched up into one person. This is still me I know you will receive the blessings you deserve, just hold on to faith and take the time to forgive the people in your past. Anyone with a brain knows that a persons past is a huge reflection of themselves and that past actions can show a lot especially in regards to the human condition. reading this I can see that you only wrote this to make yourself believe that its OK you slept with a 100 guys . so should that man walk away from her now just based off of him finding out a specific number despite the fact that how she is today makes him a happy man. A pedophile cant make a mistake. And who wants to commit to an easy girl? Some ladies go through the hoe stroll because they feel insecure (maybe no strong father presence, sexual abuse, etc) or because they truly love sex and they want it. The fact is that how I have decided to look at my wife is not an issue within myself I look at her in the way she has represented herself to me if she has misrepresented and has been sleeping around she just built a lie around her and I have looking to a fake picture of the reality. I myself agree with not judging a future mate depending solely on the number of past partners. What non practical thing are you buying with your maintenance loan first. Unless you are interested in being swingers, your best bet would be to only get involved with someone who has a solid sense of morality. "Women tend to be more unhappy with the relationship they are in . Self respect and value for yourself, if somebody wanted that lifestyle then why should they get to have somebody who didnt have that lifestyle. 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